The mental load in motherhood is a topic that has rightfully gained traction over the last few years. The term seeks to define all the emotional and mental labor that goes into caring for a family and household. But when you are parenting after loss, your mental load exponentially grows: Not only are you trying to take care of all the parenting needs for your living baby – you are making sure your baby who died is still remembered and honored, all while tending to your grief.