We have this image in our heads of the people in our lives. We see what they do for others in times of need. We see how amazing they are and then we expect that image to come true for us when we need them the most.
Unfortunately, people rarely live up to expectations or the image in our heads. Especially when it comes to the death of a child. Those people that were amazing for their friends in their times of need may not be who show up in yours. Losing a child is not something anyone can understand unless they have experienced it. Despite that, people will judge you. That you can expect.